The Marriage You Actually Want | Together Better Week 4
March 08, 2026
Pastor Landon Henry
Episode Notes
The Marriage You Actually Want
Ephesians 5:25-33 (NLT) For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ
loved the church. He gave up his life for her
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to make her holy and clean, washed by
the cleansing of God’s word.
27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious
church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and
without fault.
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In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their
own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself.
29 No one
hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church.
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And we are members of his body.
31 As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife,
and the two are united into one.”
32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of
the way Christ and the church are one.
33 So again I say, each man must love his wife
as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
86% of divorces in America are due to nonsevere reasons.
Genesis 2:22-24 (NLT) Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he
brought her to the man.
23 “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my
bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken
from ‘man.’”
24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to
his wife, and the two are united into one.
dabaq: cling or adhere; to catch by pursuit, or to pursue hard with affection and
devotion
Psalm 63:8 (NKJV) My soul follows close behind you...
Judges 20:45 ...They... pursued hard after them
HOW A MAN PURSUES & INITIATES
1. Gratitude as the tone.
● Time in removes awareness of.
2. Compromise must be the approach.
● Compromise hurts because it feels like a criticism to our opinion.
● Compromise says they’re trying.
Ephesians 5:21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
● Compromise looks like mutual submission.
3. Friendship is the mood.
● A great friend is interested.
4. Trust is the emotion.
● Security is the mega need of a woman.
● Trust is built with words, actions, and time.
3 Secrets to the Marriage You Want:
1. When you think something good, say it.
Hebrews 3:13 (NIV) But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,”
so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.
2. When you think something special, do it.
James 4:17 (NIV) If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it,
it is sin for them.
3. When you want something different, be it.
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